The YES campaign.
Around the country following the Noble Call, many groups were
setting up (or re-energising existing groups) to fight.
This was the only fight that mattered...
There was a sense of dread, anticipation and hope...
But many had one thought in common...
Let’s do this once, it might nearly kill us but let’s do it
once...
Get it right and WIN the first time...
Lay it all out on the battle field...
I could not have lived with myself if I didn’t do everything
in my power to win this fight...
The lives of all my LGBT friends and future LGBT people in
Ireland were at stake...
If we lost, there would be devastation...
It would precipitate a mass exodus of LGBT people...
It would send a message that Ireland didn’t care...
It would send a message that LGBT were NOT equal...
It would embolden bullies and homophobes to continue their
actions...
No, too much was at stake and we couldn’t lose this time.
Looking back, I never thought of myself. I never thought I would meet someone and get
married, I was fighting for that fundamental, inviolable, inalienable right of
Equality. See at the end of my blog how
ironic this was.
In Wexford we were a little slow to get going. This, I’m sure is partly due to the work
EAGLE had done about a decade before.
Outside of Dublin, Wexford had a huge LGBT population and it was a
favourite place for LGBT people to visit.
As we know there has always been an acceptance of LGBT on stage so
boosted by our popular Opera & Light Opera festival this provided a
backdrop for LGBT people to gather outside of Dublin.
Everything kicked off in earnest on 29th March
2015 in the Riverbank Hotel in Wexford.
Patrick Morris, a native of Crossabeg working in Dublin set the ball
rolling with a volunteer information evening.
He created and managed the social media channels for Wexford. He
gathered support from all corners including political parties and the
church. There was a huge, positive
response and things quickly gathered pace.
I had saved my energy and came on board at this stage knowing that there
would be a 2 month marathon and lasting until 10pm on 22nd May was so
important. I’m not going to go into the
whole campaign but there were a few moments that cannot go unmentioned...
·
The NO side on a regular basis threw out
propaganda, lies and red herrings. Our
response, headed up by a fantastic team was factual and was always
positive. Our campaign from the outset
was one of positivity and love. I was so
proud to be a part of the campaign. A
brilliant moment was touring Hook Lighthouse with the team, including Wexford
man Colm O’Gorman looking out to the sea for red herrings.
·
Blocking traffic with the YES Equality bus on
Castle Hill in Enniscorthy was funny. We
wanted the bus under the castle for the photo opportunity. We ended up pushing a car up the hill as the
driver couldn’t perform a handbrake start.
It could have turned into a bit of negative press but we didn’t let
it. Badges to all the people stuck in
traffic and a smile soothed the massing crowd.
After the official photo op the amount of people who stopped to get
their picture by the castle was crazy.
·
Myself and Shauna Scott knocked on every door in
Castlebridge and spoke with people, we didn’t just put flyers in doors and run
like our opponents were doing. It was
really important for me that my neighbours would see me & speak with
me. The personal touch was an important
part of the whole campaign.
·
Social media was amazing and played a huge role
in the campaign, for the first time energising young people to vote. Remember the whole home to vote campaign.
·
The ballot box in Senator Jim Walsh’s village
recorded one of the highest YES votes in Wexford. I have the tally slip from that ballot box
framed. Vindication at last!
My favourite moment was this photo, myself and my dad just
after 7am when we had voted on 22nd May. We couldn't wear our badges inside the polling station but once outside we could. (Harvey Milk day, not by accident)
My favourite story also involves my dad. Martin Ryan, now 73 is a man of strong faith
and goes to mass every week. I found out
he told my mam “if the no side wins I will never go to church again”. I still get a lump in my throat when I think
about this.
But now to the best part of my story. Remember I previously mentioned Conor Vaughan
Buggy. Well Conor was an amazing
activist and campaigner in Dublin during the campaign. He also has an OCD for organising and
timetabling. He had organised our day
during Pride, where we were meeting, walking, eating and drinking. What busses to take. Everything.
The whole kit n’ kaboodle.
27th
June 2015 my life changed. I had
finished my journey and fight for equality.
During the campaign I had learned to speak about myself and came to
respect myself. The campaign made me a
stronger, better person. And then I kid
you not, over a crowded bar I saw someone with his shirt hanging open flying
across the floor like a little hairy superman.
I thought to myself “I need to meet him and get his number”. Ten minutes later after a snog, exchange of
number and jumping onto the last bus on the quay Conor said something along the
line “What the f$ck John!”
We were a steady item within weeks. After about the 3rd date my mother
asked me had I met someone. My answer
was yes and you will get to meet him soon.
Within another couple of weeks we had met each other’s parents and by
November 2015, Noel had left his job in Cork and moved to Wexford.
And finally. 3rd
November 2017. I married Noel
Cunningham. We became John
Cunningham-Ryan and Noel Cunningham-Ryan.
My best man was Val Scallan Walsh, far right of photo below who started
the journey with me back in 2005.
(left-right. Best man Adrian Lemon, Noel Cunningham-Ryan, John Cunningham-Ryan & Best man Val Scallan-Walsh
Fini.
John "The Captain" Ryan
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